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When You're Not Feeling That Positive


Episode 98: Welcome back to the Mindset Chick Podcast, I am so happy to have you here, I'm your host Kristi Dear. Today we're going to talk about what you do when you just don't feel like being positive, when you're just having one of those days when you're feeling blah. When you feel like maybe the fear or the thoughts of, this isn't going to work, what am I doing wrong? Why are other people where they are? Why am I where I am? All those kind of thoughts. When you feel like those thoughts, those voices in your head are beating the drum louder than the positive thoughts, what do you do? How do you shift it?

Let's find out how. Ready?


• This summer has been amazing. It's been really, really great. And if you follow me on social media, on Facebook, Instagram, you probably know that I love to travel, I love to go to the beach, and that I was traveling a lot over the summer... Well, I enjoy eating healthy, I enjoy working out, I enjoyed taking care of my body, all the things, but over the summer, I was just like, you know, whatever, I worked out, but I was like, It doesn't really matter, I'm just going to go on vacation, I'm just going to have fun, and I had a great time. And there's nothing wrong with that. I ate some amazing foods, I lounged around, I just enjoyed myself, I enjoyed all of the manifestations. And one of the cool manifestations that happen is that I went on a trip to Hawaii with my friend in July. And what's really interesting about that is, I had on my vision board for years now that I wanted to go to Hawaii. We were talking a few weeks before she was about to leave, and she's like, I'm going to Hawaii, and I'm like, Oh my gosh, that sounds so fun, I would love to go to Hawaii! It's be on my vision board, I've been dreaming about it. And she's like, Well, come with me. 02:32) • I'm like, What if I was just dreaming about it and visualizing it. Guess what? I got an email notification two days before, we're bumping you up to first class. I think it's a business class, so I wasn't really sure what to expect, I was like, if I saw the bed, maybe it's just a chair, I... Anyways, I got on the flight, it was the very front of the plane, I mean, it was like the seat that reclined into the bed with the blanket and the pillows and the socks. And they asked me if I wanted a Sunday for desert. They wanted to make me a Sunday, it was amazing, it was so amazing! And then on the way back, it was an overnight flight and I thought, You know what, that would be so nice if they upgraded me again to first class because it's an overnight flight. How cool would that be? And I was talking with my friend and she's like, Yeah, that would be cool, but you know, it's maybe not likely to get it twice, that would be really, really interesting if you got it twice like that. And I was just visualizing and visualizing, and I was thinking about how much fun it would be to fly back and be sleeping in this like chair-like bed, and being served wine and watching a movie and having my warm nuts and my meal and all the things like, come on, we're going to Hawaii. Why not travel like this, right? (06:25) • Well, the vacation stopped and I came home, tried on my jean shorts, oops that didn't fit, they were tight. I mean, real tight. And the first thought that came in my mind was, Oh, how could you let yourself get like this like, Oh, look at your stomach, look at your thighs. So I got on my scale, I had gained weight. And the first thought was to start beating up on myself, look how good you did, you were working out, you were eating good, you lost weight, you were feeling so great in your clothes, and now you've gained it all back, really? I started to compare myself to others, Well, why do some of my other friends or some of the other people that I know get to go out and eat whatever they want and still look the same, like why did I gain all this weight? I don't understand. Now, maybe you'll never be able to lose the weight again, or you're always going to be yo-yoing or... How could you have done this? All these things were going on in my head, and I listened to the podcast and I was like, Oh my gosh, I'm in it. I'm in the mean girl phase, I'm mean girling myself. Man, I know that those thoughts aren't serving me, I know that... And I talk about it, you know, but I got caught up in it. I got kind of down on myself, I was just started feeling gross and sluggish, and then I was back to, You know, my expandable pants, that's what I like to call it. And I was like, I don't want to wear my jean shorts, I don't want to wear my jeans, I'm back to my expandable pants. I listen to that podcast and I thought, You know, no, I'm going to use this for good, I'm not going to use this to beat up on myself. I'm going to use this as an opportunity to flip the script and just say, You know what? I had a great time, I had a wonderful time, I flew first class both ways to Hawaii. (8:33)

• I have to just appreciate where I am, hey, I enjoyed some really good food and drink, I'm just saying. I mean it was good and all that pizza in Hawaii was worth it. And one of my friends said, What did you eat in Hawaii? And I said we went almost every day to Lahaina Pizza Company and got Hawaiian pizza and beer, and let me just tell you, it was worth every bike... It was so good. So I enjoyed it and I'm just realizing that it's okay to have those days where maybe you don't feel that positive and you don't feel that great, but just know you don't have to stay there. And when Lizzy talked about shutting up your inter-Mean Girl, it's really a choice, like you can subscribe to those stories, you can listen to the voices, or you can say, You know what? No thank you. I'm not going to beat the drum to that song, I'm not going to believe I'm a failure, I'm not going to believe that I'm not good enough, I'm not going to believe that I'm ugly or fat or I'm less than anybody else. I'm going to lift myself up and just say, I am where I am, and that's okay. (13:33)


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